Questions about ADHD

Questions for Parents and Caregivers

Some questions parents and caregivers can ask themselves include:

  • What problems lead you to suspect your child has ADD or ADHD?
  • Do you feel like you are in a power struggle with your child?
  • Is there any way you can undermine this power struggle?
  • Are there times when your child has exerted some control over these problems?
  • Are there times when your child has not allowed the problem to happen or been able to eliminate it sooner than usual?
  • Can you begin to look for instances when your child is exerting some influence over these problems?
  • How can you talk with your child to help them see and experience these instances of influence over the problem?
  • How can you help them notice success (however small) instead of failure (however great) in dealing with the problem?
  • What effect have these problems had on you, your sense of yourself, as a parent and as a person?
  • Should these effects be addressed in their own right?

Questions for Young People

A child or young person faced with such difficulties can find it helpful to respond to the following:

  • If you were to speak for yourself, what would you say is a problem in your life?
  • How have others described your difficulties?
  • Do you agree with them? What do you agree with? What do you disagree with?
  • Would you like these problems to stop or go away?
  • Have there been any times when you were able to stop these problems from happening or make them go away more quickly than usual?
  • Have there been times when you were able to recover from them more quickly than usual?
  • Would you be able to experiment for a short time with trying to stop the problems from happening, making them go away more quickly than usual, or recovering from them more quickly than usual?
  • Who would you like to help you in this experiment?
  • How can others be of help to you in this experiment?
  • Who would you like to notice you being successful in this experiment?
  • When the experiment is over, would you like others to look for evidence of failure or evidence of success?
  • What would it be like for you if others found evidence of success?
  • Would feeling successful at being able to influence these problems make it easier or harder to put effort into being more successful?

Questions for Professionals

You may be involved with children and families in a professional capacity. Before making interpretations or coming up with diagnostic labels, you may want to identify the exact problem. Some suggested questions are:

  • What behaviors are problematic?
  • How can you and others name and address each of these behaviors without a label being applied?
  • Is there any evidence the child has been able, even in a small way, to take responsibility for the problem behavior?
  • Is there any evidence the child has been able, even in a small way, to stop, reduce, or not engage in the problem behavior?
  • If so, how can others help the child in increasing this ability?
  • How can others help the child take more responsibility for doing this?
  • What can you do to help others encourage the child to further demonstrate this ability and responsibility?
  • How can you create a wider audience of teachers, peers, family and others for the child’s success?

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