Responsible Parenting

Posted by on Feb 7, 2018 in Parenting | 0 comments

Responsible Parenting

Perhaps you avoid the concept of responsible parenting. You may feel that planned methods hinder parent-to-child relationships. You may resent any framework of external interference in child discipline, training or fellowship. Perhaps you view responsible parenting classes as an encroachment on your personal child rearing decisions.

Let this article change your mind.

The Nature of Spontaneous Parenting

From the moment Adam was cast out of the garden, the parenting process has been based upon spontaneous learning processes. It’s a mixture of pre-conceived parenting notions handed down from parent to parent and then linked by “fly by the seat of your pants” changes slanted to the learned personal and social reactions of individual parents.

The following example illustrates the process:

RM raised his children under the spontaneous rule of “fly by the seat of your pants”. He entered parenthood with certain personally confirmed parenting notions based upon the errors his own parents had committed. To RM, the rules were simple:

  • Discipline without beating
  • Never strike a child when you are angry
  • Take time to make time
  • Listen when your children speak
  • Be a friend as well as a parent
  • Put child safety first
  • Provide necessities but not necessarily wants.

According to MedlinePlus, RM is not too far distant from the standard suggestions on how to be a responsible parent. After stating that there is more than one “right” method of responsible parenting, Medline provides a partial list of parenting guidelines that expand on RM’s concepts in only four areas:

  • Provide consistency and order
  • Establish and enforce limits
  • Supervise your child’s activities and friendships
  • Leading by example.

The Missing Link

Responsible parenting begins and ends with a calculated, focused, learned and dedicated awareness of every detail concerning child rearing. Spontaneous parenting rarely ever begins with a thought out concept of events versus consequences.

Each process of efficient parenting involves multiple levels of application. For example: You must balance safety with the ability to temporarily turn loose. Sometimes emotional and mental growth is only possible via reduced safety measures.

In a learn-as-you-go environment, children pay the price of parental failure. Just a little knowledge, a little training, a simple study of bad parenting examples can make the difference between responsible parents with well mannered children and spontaneous parent with consistently troubled children.

What is your goal as a responsible parent?

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Changing The Way You Deal With Your Child’s Mental Health

Posted by on Jan 28, 2013 in Featured, Parenting | 0 comments

Changing The Way You Deal With Your Child’s Mental Health

Helen Keller was treated as a mentally disturbed child yet her disabilities were physical and her mind was clear. But her ability to communicate with her environment was limited and she came from a time in which mentally ill children were often treated as a blot against the dignity of the parents. Society was void of knowledge, understanding and the courage to reject the so-called curse of a mentally disturbed child.

Kindness abounded, but little was done to change the circumstances. People like Anne Sullivan were among the uncommon. There weren’t many blind/deaf girls that enjoyed a world encounter at the faucet of a hand-cranked water pump.


A New Approach To Your Child’s Mental Health


A recent article from the National Technical Assistance Center for Children’s Mental Health brings to light a new conceptual framework for helping to ensure that your child has the opportunities that many of Helen Keller’s peers never received.

The new approach uses the impact of System of Care values to promote enhanced child development. The process focuses on healthy environments, physical health and mental health.

The core approach applies three primary principles:

  1. Identify a child’s mental health problems
  2. Help the child learn to optimize their mental strengths
  3. Focus public health concepts on areas that strengthen your child’s physical health, mental development and mental health.

Three major elements make up the conceptual framework of the program:

  1. Establish principles of application
  2. Establish a set of rules concerning public health response to circumstances
  3. Establish an expanded range of public intervention.

When functioning correctly, this new model of managing children’s mental health will promote better focus on positive mental health. Parents, teachers and authorities will work to prevent mental health problems through treatment and by reclaiming ground previously loss due to poor intervention.

Leaders of policy roles, federal and state facilities and local programs may soon take a “Big” hand in your child’s mental health. The question:

Is it “Big Brother,” interference or is it providing something that the children of Helen Keller’s age never had the opportunity to receive?

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Parental Involvement Improves Pupil Performance

Posted by on Dec 14, 2012 in Featured, Parenting | 0 comments

Parental Involvement Improves Pupil Performance

A recent article from the Department for Education and Skills (DES) examines the effects of spontaneous parental involvement on pupil progress and achievement. “Good parenting,” according to the authors Professor Charles Desforges and Alberto Abouchaar, is tightly linked to a parent’s spontaneous activity in and out of home. By involving yourself in home pre-school, parent to teacher discussions, child progress tracking and a host of other methods, you can help construct within your child a good foundation of:

  • Attitudes
  • Self Confidence
  • Skills
  • And Values.

The DES article attempts to enlighten parents concerning three areas of spontaneous parental involvement:

  1. The nature, impact and outcome of spontaneous parenting
  2. Things that hinder spontaneous parental involvement
  3. The evaluation and enhancement of a parent’s spontaneous involvement

Core Description And Nature Of Parental Leadership On A Spontaneous Level

Current DES research uses advanced statistical collection and measurement techniques to describe the scope and scale of spontaneous parental involvement in pupil achievement. To ensure good, in-home parenting you should provide daily resources that include:

  • A stable and secure environment
  • Active and positive communications with schools and educational leaders
  • Discussions between you and your child
  • Hands-on participation in school related work projects
  • Intellectual stimulation
  • Participation in educational, school and social events
  • Participation in school governmental decisions
  • Role model leadership concerning educational, personal and social citizenship and values.

Progressive Stages Of Diminishing Value

As a parent, you should understand two primary points concerning parental involvement in pupil performance.

1) Your ability to influence your child through spontaneous parental involvement can be hindered by your:

  • Family social class
  • Maternal concerns such as level of education, psycho-social health and dual parent status
  • Matters of material deprivation
  • Family ethnicity.

These matters are not insurmountable. They merely reflect a need to work harder and longer in your efforts to produce the improvements that can be derived through effective spontaneous parental involvement.

2) Your ability to influence your child’s personal and social growth is diminished as your child ages. Imagine how the benefits of an early start can enhance and extend the age of break-away.

Seven Question Checkup Of Your Spontaneous Parental Involvement

  1. Do my spontaneous parenting skills include effective parent-to-child interaction?
  2. Am I spontaneous in my school-to-home and home-to-school communications?
  3. Do I spontaneously volunteer for classroom events?
  4. Do I provide my child with effective homework help?
  5. As a spontaneous parent, am I helping my child make correct choices for educational options?
  6. What areas of PTA and school government occupy my time?
  7. Do I collaborate with community efforts to contribute to my child’s school?
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Helping Grandparents Care for the Children of Incarcerated Parents

Posted by on Sep 18, 2012 in Parenting | 0 comments

Grandparent Child CareOnly a few stages in life can match the difficulties associated with raising children. As a parent, you must keep watch over the child’s physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well-being. You must also learn to take notice of antisocial behavior and self-destructive life choices. When you are a grandparent and the parenting issues involve the adolescent offspring of imprisoned parents, the complications accumulate like a Los Angeles brush fire.

According to a report from the Oregon Social Learning Center, youth with an antisocial parent or parents are three to six times more likely to engage in dangerous antisocial activities. Furthermore, these behavior patterns typically lead to criminal behavior at young ages with a high risk of additional problems such as:

  • Academic complications
  • Early-life sexual encounters
  • Substance abuse
  • Abrasive peer behavior
  • Complicated work habits
  • Marriage issues
  • Parenting complications
  • More.

Current predictions suggest that the adolescent children of incarcerated parents will be involved in a critical criminal situation by age 15 to 25. In many cases, incarceration of the child will follow.

Coping as a Grandparent

In many events, grandparents bear the burden of rearing the young children of incarcerated mothers. This presents many complications, including:

  • Financial expenses
  • Matters of control and respect
  • Issues concerning parent-child relationships
  • Parental visitations
  • Child welfare
  • Emotional and social issues
  • Governmental interventions
  • More.

When a child goes through the family transition of parent to grandparent, certain resentments tend to follow. Without proper guidance, the grandparent can be overwhelmed by the renewed responsibilities of full-time parenting. Whether the child reacts violently, sullenly or seemingly without concern, the shift in family relationships stands out like a casket the parlor. Even if never discussed in the open, everyone knows that things are now different.

Current studies have confirmed the links between father/mother criminality and the antisocial behavior of the adolescent offspring. Even now, lawmakers are working to improve the justice system. But the effects are yet in the future. Right now, every grandparent burdened to rear the child of an incarcerated child faces great challenges, many heartaches and perhaps a long battle with their own sense of well-being and sanity.

Planet therapy provides parenting support and workshops for grandparents as well as parents. Your task is difficult and the future of your grandchild may hang in the balance. Seek help today.


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Fatherless Children, A Consequence of Drug Addiction, Fathers and Prison

Posted by on Sep 10, 2012 in Alcohol and Drugs Misuse, Family & Friends, Parenting | 0 comments

Fatherless ChildAccording to the principles behind the New Jersey Mandatory Drug Court Program, signed into active law on July 19, 2012 by N.J. governor Chris Christie, no life is disposable. Legislation S-881 establishes guidelines for helping individuals overcome drug addiction. The Program stands on the groundwork of fiscal and moral commonsense: Helping drug addicts reclaim their lives exceeds the performance of a warehouse prison system.

A fatherless child remains one of the worst consequences of drug addiction. The addicted adult ends up in prison. The child of the prisoner – rose to adulthood by a faulty system – ends up following suit. Addiction begets addiction. In the end, society reaps even greater fiscal and moral consequences.

Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS)

A study initiated by the BJS reports on the issue of minors with incarcerated parents. The background study group includes parents in prison for sexual abuse, alcohol addiction, mental health, drug abuse and other complications. Primary points of notice include:

  • Over 744,000 fathers in prison
  • Over 65,000 mothers in prison
  • Over 1.5 million minor children left without a father, mother or both
  • Better than one quarter of the minor children are under four years old
  • 59% of the offenders with children are incarcerated on drug charges
  • Over 34% of the prisoners with children report a home background that includes drug and/or alcohol abuse by their parents or legal guardians.

Prison life is filled with frustration – even for those with strong minds, courageous hearts and the ability to focus on a promising future. If you are addicted to drugs, alcohol, sex or any other form of mental illness, don’t wait until help becomes part of a mandatory jail term. You need not live in torment. You need not let your children live without a father or without a mother.

It’s not easy to step into a drug rehabilitation and treatment program. But for happiness, self-control and the sake of your children, it is one of the most important decisions you will ever make.

Seek help now.

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Understanding the Problem

Posted by on Mar 26, 2012 in Parenting | 0 comments

As everyone knows, having children can bring about changes in a person’s identity, lifestyle, relationship, and career that seems cataclysmic. While everyone has some advice for “how to be a good parent” there are only a few publications written specifically for new parents, particularly younger couples.

There is little recognition that a variety of unforeseen problems can occur as parents adjust to this new beginning. In fact, when you tell people you are the parent of a newborn – or a one-year-old, or even a three-year-old – a common response is a nostalgic smile and a request to see pictures.

Society promotes the idea that new parents should be experiencing a wonderful and blissful time – all the time – making difficulties that do arise with new parenting invisible. The overall message seems to be: “only problem parents have problems with parenting,” which of course keeps parents from talking about, and connecting with universal fears, stress, and worries.

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