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Anger Management: How To Control Anger Inducing Frustrations

Posted by on Dec 27, 2012 in Anger Management | 0 comments

At eight minutes before starting time for his weekly court ordered anger management session, Randy Clanton plopped down on the third seat to the right of Jeff Farris. It was a familiar chair, one he had owned throughout the anger sessions – all ten thousand of them even if that lying calendar on the wall did only evidenced three months of it.

Barry Moore was sharing a story about how he had just lost his job at Freightliner. Some punk kid had mouthed off and triggered Barry’s wrath. “But, hey, “ Barry said, “I put him in is place. Sent the little pansy running to the head office with his head between his butt cheeks.”

Everyone enjoyed the story. After Doc Tyson entered and started the anger management session, Barry told it again. He was proud of scaring that punk kid, glad for having “turned loose.”

During the second telling, Randy pondered the price tag Barry would pay. Felons don’t often land Freightliner-type jobs. Now, for just a few moments of personal release, the job was gone, Barry’s wife might decide that enough was enough and his probation officer might even call for a new trip to the courthouse.

For the first time in ten thousand years, Randy Clanton actually began to understand the cost of poor anger management skills.

 

Prevent Anger From Controlling Your Life

Anger ManagementEveryone experiences anger. Sometimes it comes as a fleeting exasperation that is accompanied by a single harsh glance at an object or person. Sometimes it comes in a full-blown fury that boils out through tongue, hands and even weapons.

The following tips from the American Psychological Association may help you manage your personal frustrations:

  1. Relaxation – Includes deep breathing, chanting, imagery and visualization, yoga-style exercises and other anger management techniques.
  2. Cognitive Restructuring – Logic defeats anger. Rather than speaking inaccurate words that merely reflect your inner frustration, learn to think and say words that clarify the problem and that address the senselessness of trying to resolve the issue through anger.
  3. Problem Solving – Focus on realistic solutions but learn to accept problems that have no solution.Communication – Rather than acting on inaccurate conclusions, learn how to slow down, listen and find understanding.
  4. Communication – Rather than acting on inaccurate conclusions, learn how to slow down, listen and find understanding.
  5. Humor – Laughter helps establish a balanced perspective which in turn defuses anger.
  6. Environment – Changing your environment can reduce that trapped feeling which so often leads to rage.
  7. Avoidance – Learn to avoid the sights, sounds, people and situations that prick your anger.
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Responsible Parenting

Posted by on Dec 14, 2012 in Parenting | 0 comments

Responsible Parenting

Responsible ParentingPerhaps you avoid the concept of responsible parenting. You may feel that planned methods hinder parent-to-child relationships. You may resent any framework of external interference in child discipline, training or fellowship. Perhaps you view responsible parenting classes as an encroachment on your personal child rearing decisions.

Let this article change your mind.

The Nature of Spontaneous Parenting

From the moment Adam was cast out of the garden, the parenting process has been based upon spontaneous learning processes. It’s a mixture of pre-conceived parenting notions handed down from parent to parent and then linked by “fly by the seat of your pants” changes slanted to the learned personal and social reactions of individual parents.

The following example illustrates the process:

RM raised his children under the spontaneous rule of “fly by the seat of your pants”. He entered parenthood with certain personally confirmed parenting notions based upon the errors his own parents had committed. To RM, the rules were simple:

  • Discipline without beating
  • Never strike a child when you are angry
  • Take time to make time
  • Listen when your children speak
  • Be a friend as well as a parent
  • Put child safety first
  • Provide necessities but not necessarily wants.

According to MedlinePlus, RM is not too far distant from the standard suggestions on how to be a responsible parent. After stating that there is more than one “right” method of responsible parenting, Medline provides a partial list of parenting guidelines that expand on RM’s concepts in only four areas:

  • Provide consistency and order
  • Establish and enforce limits
  • Supervise your child’s activities and friendships
  • Leading by example.

The Missing Link

Responsible parenting begins and ends with a calculated, focused, learned and dedicated awareness of every detail concerning child rearing. Spontaneous parenting rarely ever begins with a thought out concept of events versus consequences.

Each process of efficient parenting involves multiple levels of application. For example: You must balance safety with the ability to temporarily turn loose. Sometimes emotional and mental growth is only possible via reduced safety measures.

In a learn-as-you-go environment, children pay the price of parental failure. Just a little knowledge, a little training, a simple study of bad parenting examples can make the difference between responsible parents with well mannered children and spontaneous parent with consistently troubled children.

What is your goal as a responsible parent?

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Parental Involvement Improves Pupil Performance

Posted by on Dec 14, 2012 in Featured, Parenting | 0 comments

Parental Involvement Improves Pupil Performance

A recent article from the Department for Education and Skills (DES) examines the effects of spontaneous parental involvement on pupil progress and achievement. “Good parenting,” according to the authors Professor Charles Desforges and Alberto Abouchaar, is tightly linked to a parent’s spontaneous activity in and out of home. By involving yourself in home pre-school, parent to teacher discussions, child progress tracking and a host of other methods, you can help construct within your child a good foundation of:

  • Attitudes
  • Self Confidence
  • Skills
  • And Values.

The DES article attempts to enlighten parents concerning three areas of spontaneous parental involvement:

  1. The nature, impact and outcome of spontaneous parenting
  2. Things that hinder spontaneous parental involvement
  3. The evaluation and enhancement of a parent’s spontaneous involvement

Core Description And Nature Of Parental Leadership On A Spontaneous Level

Current DES research uses advanced statistical collection and measurement techniques to describe the scope and scale of spontaneous parental involvement in pupil achievement. To ensure good, in-home parenting you should provide daily resources that include:

  • A stable and secure environment
  • Active and positive communications with schools and educational leaders
  • Discussions between you and your child
  • Hands-on participation in school related work projects
  • Intellectual stimulation
  • Participation in educational, school and social events
  • Participation in school governmental decisions
  • Role model leadership concerning educational, personal and social citizenship and values.

Progressive Stages Of Diminishing Value

As a parent, you should understand two primary points concerning parental involvement in pupil performance.

1) Your ability to influence your child through spontaneous parental involvement can be hindered by your:

  • Family social class
  • Maternal concerns such as level of education, psycho-social health and dual parent status
  • Matters of material deprivation
  • Family ethnicity.

These matters are not insurmountable. They merely reflect a need to work harder and longer in your efforts to produce the improvements that can be derived through effective spontaneous parental involvement.

2) Your ability to influence your child’s personal and social growth is diminished as your child ages. Imagine how the benefits of an early start can enhance and extend the age of break-away.

Seven Question Checkup Of Your Spontaneous Parental Involvement

  1. Do my spontaneous parenting skills include effective parent-to-child interaction?
  2. Am I spontaneous in my school-to-home and home-to-school communications?
  3. Do I spontaneously volunteer for classroom events?
  4. Do I provide my child with effective homework help?
  5. As a spontaneous parent, am I helping my child make correct choices for educational options?
  6. What areas of PTA and school government occupy my time?
  7. Do I collaborate with community efforts to contribute to my child’s school?
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Grieving The Death of a Grandchild

Posted by on Nov 19, 2012 in Features | 1 comment

In an old science fiction tale, the author opens the story with a death scene. In describing the dying character, the writer pictures an old man beneath the covers from the neck down, his head on the pillowcase like a shriveled nut on a white paper napkin. A young man, less than thirty years old and with tears in his eyes, sits by the old man’s bedside.

In the course of the story, we learn that the dying man is the grandchild of the weeping man. In this fictional world, science had conquered death. Yet sometimes a person’s genetic makeup rejected the treatment that preserved everlasting life. Thus the young man witnessed a grandchild dying of old age.

Grieving The Death of a Grandchild

It feels perverted when a child dies ahead of the parent – even more so when one must endure the death of a grandchild. The grief of such a loss is almost unbearable, the pain so deep that even the darkness between the stars of the midnight sky seem shallow by comparison.

But finding your way out of the emptiness is not impossible. Help is available, personalized help, help that identifies you as an individual with a distinct method for handling grief and pain.

Current Treatments

According to UNICEF and the World Health Organization, in 2010 over seven million children worldwide died before reaching the age of five years old. In the good news, this report reflects a slowing in the number of preventable deaths. However, each day still bears the cross of nearly 22,000 children under five years old.

Who can really understand your pain? The very effort to treat prolonged grief stirs controversial questions. Losing a grandchild produces:

  • Acute stress
  • Extended mêlées with immeasurable sadness
  • A prolonged desire to be alone
  • Emotional numbness
  • An inability to redefine your place among family and society
  • Intense sense of guilt
  • Even the inability to cope with daily life.

In the gray area of treatment, many theorists advocate targeted grief therapy yet resist universal intervention. Possible healing techniques include:

  • Cognitive-behavioral techniques such as cognitive restructuring and exposure processes
  • Crisis or other intervention services
  • Pharmacotherapy as a means of reducing bereavement-related depression
  • Family-based support groups
  • Internet-based therapies
  • Preventive associations
  • And More.

Never Really Alone

You are not alone in a dark world that lacks any form of exit. Death is expected but help is available to the survivors. Others have walked this lonely path. Books that help:

“When a Grandchild Dies: What to Do, What to Say, How to Cope” by Nadine Galinsky
“Grandparents Cry Twice: Help for Bereaved Grandparents” by Mary Lou Reed
“Forgotten Tears: A Grandmother’s Journey Through Grief” by Nina Bennett.

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Medical Treatments for Depression

Posted by on Nov 12, 2012 in Anxiety, Depression, Featured | 1 comment

Treatments for Depression

Clinical depression is a collection of symptoms characterized by low mood, low self-esteem and the loss of pleasure in activities that are normally enjoyable. It is a disabling condition that can adversely affect all aspects of a person’s life and 3.4 percent of people with clinical depression commit suicide. Fortunately, a variety of medications are able to manage clinical depression. These medications can be classified into the following categories:

  • Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors
  • Serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors
  • Tricyclic antidepressants
  • Monoamine oxidase inhibitors

Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors

SSRIs work by increasing the level of serotonin in the brain, which is a mood elevator. They are currently the preferred medication for severe depression due their broad effect on depression and relatively mild side effects. Common SSRIs include escitalopram (Cipralex, Lexapro), fluoxetine (Prozac) and sertraline (Lustral, Zoloft). Patients who don’t respond to the first SSRI are typically switched to another SSI, which improves the patient’s condition in nearly half of all cases. SSRIs typically have limited effectiveness against mild and moderate depression.

Serotonin Norepinephrine Reuptake Inhibitors

SNRIs elevate the levels of the mood elevators serotonin and norepniphrine. They include desvenlafaxine (Pristiq), duloxetine (Cymbalta), milnacipran (Ixel) and venlafaxine (Effexor). SNRIs are the newest type of anti-depressants and have side effects that are generally similar to those of SSRIs, although they are slightly less severe. SNRIs are typically administered in low doses at first and then gradually increased until the therapeutic level is reached. Similarly, a patient must taper off SNRIs gradually to minimize the risk of side effects.

Tricyclics

Tricyclics are so-named because their chemical structure is characterized by three carbon rings. This is an older class of anti-depressants that have more side effects than SSRIs. Tricyclics are typically used only when patients do not respond to the newer anti-depressants, especially inpatients. Many tricyclics are available, although amitriptyline is the most common tricyclic still in use.

MAOIs

A monoamine oxidase inhibitor reduces the ability of monoamine oxidase, which breaks down monoamine neurotransmitters. MAOIs are typically used only when all other types of anti-depressants have failed due to their interactions with other drugs which can be lethal. They are most effective in treating atypical depression, in which the patient can experience an improvement in mood when a positive event occurs. The most recent form of MAOI is Emsam, which is a transdermal patch of selegiline that was approved by the FDA in 2006.

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