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Responsible Parenting

Posted by on Feb 7, 2018 in Parenting | 0 comments

Responsible Parenting

Perhaps you avoid the concept of responsible parenting. You may feel that planned methods hinder parent-to-child relationships. You may resent any framework of external interference in child discipline, training or fellowship. Perhaps you view responsible parenting classes as an encroachment on your personal child rearing decisions.

Let this article change your mind.

The Nature of Spontaneous Parenting

From the moment Adam was cast out of the garden, the parenting process has been based upon spontaneous learning processes. It’s a mixture of pre-conceived parenting notions handed down from parent to parent and then linked by “fly by the seat of your pants” changes slanted to the learned personal and social reactions of individual parents.

The following example illustrates the process:

RM raised his children under the spontaneous rule of “fly by the seat of your pants”. He entered parenthood with certain personally confirmed parenting notions based upon the errors his own parents had committed. To RM, the rules were simple:

  • Discipline without beating
  • Never strike a child when you are angry
  • Take time to make time
  • Listen when your children speak
  • Be a friend as well as a parent
  • Put child safety first
  • Provide necessities but not necessarily wants.

According to MedlinePlus, RM is not too far distant from the standard suggestions on how to be a responsible parent. After stating that there is more than one “right” method of responsible parenting, Medline provides a partial list of parenting guidelines that expand on RM’s concepts in only four areas:

  • Provide consistency and order
  • Establish and enforce limits
  • Supervise your child’s activities and friendships
  • Leading by example.

The Missing Link

Responsible parenting begins and ends with a calculated, focused, learned and dedicated awareness of every detail concerning child rearing. Spontaneous parenting rarely ever begins with a thought out concept of events versus consequences.

Each process of efficient parenting involves multiple levels of application. For example: You must balance safety with the ability to temporarily turn loose. Sometimes emotional and mental growth is only possible via reduced safety measures.

In a learn-as-you-go environment, children pay the price of parental failure. Just a little knowledge, a little training, a simple study of bad parenting examples can make the difference between responsible parents with well mannered children and spontaneous parent with consistently troubled children.

What is your goal as a responsible parent?

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The Complexity of a Bipolar Disorder

Posted by on Jan 29, 2018 in Featured, Living with illness | 0 comments

The Complexity of a Bipolar Disorder

The Complexity of Bipolar Disorder When Accompanied By Co-existent Illnesses

At twenty-four years old, Susan Harris suffers from bipolar disorder, drug abuse, migraine headaches and social phobia. Due to poor coping skills, she lives with her parents. Normally she responds well to medication.

But on November 13th of 2012, Susan disappeared for four days and three nights. It wasn’t the first or the longest. On Friday the 16th, they found her in the alley on the backside of the DeWolfe Street hardware store. Cold, wet and shaking like a loose shelf in a 1850s freight car, she was huddle between the block walls and the dumpster. No one knows what happened or where she spent those missing days.

The burdens of caring for a young adult with bipolar disorder can break a parent’s heart. Each day carries a certain measure of fear and worry – even when the child’s current medication appears to provide measurable success. At any moment something can break and your bipolar child crosses into a season of darkness.

Diagnosing Bipolar Disorder Can Be Complicated By Co-existing Illnesses

Bipolar disorder is typically characterized by discrete and intense emotional changes ranging from extreme manic excitement to deep level bouts with depression. However, the disorder can also be limited to periods of long-lasting unstable mood patterns. When complicated by any of the following co-existing illnesses, bipolar disorder can be very difficult to detect and diagnose:

  • Anxiety disorders such as PTSD
  • Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder
  • Substance abuse
  • Various physical complications, including diabetes, heart disease and migraines – all capable of inducing symptoms of depression or mania.

Current Treatment of Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar disorder cannot be cured. Modern treatment helps, but this illness remains a lifelong affliction. Effective control methods include:

  • Medications such as mood-stabilizing products, sleep aids and Lithium treatments designed to aid with thyroid problems
  • Psychotherapy involving cognitive behavioral therapy, family-focused coping strategies, social rhythm processes and psycho-education designed to teach bipolar individuals how to recognize danger signs
  • Electro-convulsive therapy, which may be used in the event that medication and/or psychotherapy fails to provide positive results.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, several new studies indicate medication supported by intensive psychotherapy and social rhythm therapy provides better results than those achieved via collaborative care and psycho-education sessions. Yet the big question remains:

How long will it be before the parents of Susan Harris must endure another vanishing daughter ordeal?

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Anger Management: How To Control Anger Inducing Frustrations

Posted by on Jan 18, 2018 in Anger Management | 0 comments

Anger Management: How To Control Anger Inducing Frustrations

At eight minutes before starting time for his weekly court ordered anger management session, Randy Clanton plopped down on the third seat to the right of Jeff Farris. It was a familiar chair, one he had owned throughout the anger sessions – all ten thousand of them even if that lying calendar on the wall did only evidenced three months of it.

Barry Moore was sharing a story about how he had just lost his job at Freightliner. Some punk kid had mouthed off and triggered Barry’s wrath. “But, hey, “ Barry said, “I put him in is place. Sent the little pansy running to the head office with his head between his butt cheeks.”

Everyone enjoyed the story. After Doc Tyson entered and started the anger management session, Barry told it again. He was proud of scaring that punk kid, glad for having “turned loose.”

During the second telling, Randy pondered the price tag Barry would pay. Felons don’t often land Freightliner-type jobs. Now, for just a few moments of personal release, the job was gone, Barry’s wife might decide that enough was enough and his probation officer might even call for a new trip to the courthouse.

For the first time in ten thousand years, Randy Clanton actually began to understand the cost of poor anger management skills.


Prevent Anger From Controlling Your Life

Everyone experiences anger. Sometimes it comes as a fleeting exasperation that is accompanied by a single harsh glance at an object or person. Sometimes it comes in a full-blown fury that boils out through tongue, hands and even weapons.

The following tips from the American Psychological Association may help you manage your personal frustrations:

  1. Relaxation – Includes deep breathing, chanting, imagery and visualization, yoga-style exercises and other anger management techniques.
  2. Cognitive Restructuring – Logic defeats anger. Rather than speaking inaccurate words that merely reflect your inner frustration, learn to think and say words that clarify the problem and that address the senselessness of trying to resolve the issue through anger.
  3. Problem Solving – Focus on realistic solutions but learn to accept problems that have no solution.Communication – Rather than acting on inaccurate conclusions, learn how to slow down, listen and find understanding.
  4. Communication – Rather than acting on inaccurate conclusions, learn how to slow down, listen and find understanding.
  5. Humor – Laughter helps establish a balanced perspective which in turn defuses anger.
  6. Environment – Changing your environment can reduce that trapped feeling which so often leads to rage.
  7. Avoidance – Learn to avoid the sights, sounds, people and situations that prick your anger.
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Mental Illness and Homeless Individuals

Posted by on Jan 8, 2018 in Problems | 0 comments

Mental Illness and Homeless Individuals

According to the National Coalition for the Homeless (NCH), better than 20% of the homeless people in the U.S. endure one or another serious mental condition. Yet in the nation as a whole, only 6% of the people are considered severely mentally impaired.

In a 2009 government survey of 25 cities, mental illness was listed as the third largest cause for single adults being homelessness. 12% of the cities identified mental illness as one of the top three causes for homeless families.

Helping the Impossible Patient

According to NCH reports, mental illness often prevents a homeless person from forming or maintaining a stable relationship. Part of the problem streams from a lack of understanding by untroubled people – even family members, including you. When your father or mother or daughter or son resists the efforts of caregivers, rejects your support and developments a moment-to-moment lifestyle, anger may become your typical response to every encounter with that person. And it hinders your ability to help.

Homeless people often neglect the basic hygiene practices that help ward off physical complications such as respiratory infections, skin diseases and even life-threatening exposure to harsh weather. They may even use street drugs for self-medication. Smokers share smokes with homeless friends. Tuberculosis waits in the breeze.

Their poor work habits are frustrating to you and maybe even to them. Sometimes they don’t even attempt to obtain employment. The costs of trying to help can be overwhelming. Sometimes you just want to throw up your hands and quit.

Resources Now and More in the Making

When approached correctly, many mentally ill homeless people are willing to receive professional treatment and services. Authorities are working to help improve coordination between existing mental health service providers and homeless shelters. The future is looking better.

For current solutions, get your loved one lined up with an outreach program with workers who strive to establish a relationship of trust through continued contact. According to the National Mental Health Association (NMHA), supported housing provides an effective solution for the homeless mentally ill. Here’s a sample of the services:

  • Advanced life management training
  • Employment opportunities
  • Educational tools
  • Flexible treatment options
  • Ongoing access to treatment resources
  • Peer support
  • Physical health care
  • And More.

Your homeless friend or relative can achieve residential stability. Access to support housing programs work. For the sake of your own sanity, check it out.

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Free Resource CD On Shared Decision Making (SDM) for Mental Health

Posted by on Feb 25, 2013 in Featured | 0 comments

Free Resource CD On Shared Decision Making (SDM) for Mental Health

Although several new studies may lead you to believe that Shared Decision Making is new to the mental healthcare industry, the system has a history of researchers, practitioners and recovered patients. In fact, SDM and medication management go hand-in-hand toward the recovery process.


Shortcomings Associated With Conceptualized Medication Management

According to a paper released in 2006 by Pat Deegan, PhD and Associates, mental healthcare professionals of that time period often practiced conceptualized medication management. However, the authors argue that compliance-focused strategies fail due to the complexity of the process, the nature of autonomous patients and an assumed projected learning curve that stretches into decades.

Strategies that help increase compliance in patients with severe mental illnesses are based upon paternalism that clashes with the principles of person-centered healthcare. Furthermore, using medication is a hands-on process that demands complex patient decision making interactions. The Deegan team identified this process as an opportunity for the patient to “work through decisional conflicts.”

To you, or your loved one, this means quicker re-entry into:

  • Society
  • Personal relationships
  • Independent living
  • AND peace of mind.

Shared Decision Making As a Model For Recovery

Using medication in an SDM environment establishes a partnership between you and your practitioner. It’s an opportunity for studying the success of a treatment within the context of short and long-term recovery from any major mental disorder. Sharing in the decision-making process permits you and your doctor to work as one in the evaluation of the advantages and the disadvantages of any treatment program.

A study conducted in March of 2008 by the Center for Multicultural Mental Health Research out of Cambridge Health Alliance determined that patient-provider communication potentially increases self-reported patient activation, retention and attendance. The study evidenced that intervention participants, when measured against comparison participants, were three times more likely to schedule follow-up medical visits.

SDM as a model for mental health recovery is not new nor is it dormant.

Currently available for free from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration: A new CD on Shared Decision Making in Mental Health Decision Aid. The CD-ROM is designed for:

  • Mental Health Patients
  • Substance Abuse Patients
  • Patients Battling With Alcohol Use or Abuse
  • AND others.

The materials focus on SDM intervention and how it helps people with mental illnesses make the right treatment choices. The context includes:

  • Tips
  • Videos
  • Workbooks
  • AND various interactive components of medication-assisted therapy.

You can order your free Shared Decision Making CD now at:

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