Anger Management: How To Control Anger Inducing Frustrations

At eight minutes before starting time for his weekly court ordered anger management session, Randy Clanton plopped down on the third seat to the right of Jeff Farris. It was a familiar chair, one he had owned throughout the anger sessions – all ten thousand of them even if that lying calendar on the wall did only evidenced three months of it.

Barry Moore was sharing a story about how he had just lost his job at Freightliner. Some punk kid had mouthed off and triggered Barry’s wrath. “But, hey, “ Barry said, “I put him in is place. Sent the little pansy running to the head office with his head between his butt cheeks.”

Everyone enjoyed the story. After Doc Tyson entered and started the anger management session, Barry told it again. He was proud of scaring that punk kid, glad for having “turned loose.”

During the second telling, Randy pondered the price tag Barry would pay. Felons don’t often land Freightliner-type jobs. Now, for just a few moments of personal release, the job was gone, Barry’s wife might decide that enough was enough and his probation officer might even call for a new trip to the courthouse.

For the first time in ten thousand years, Randy Clanton actually began to understand the cost of poor anger management skills.

 

Prevent Anger From Controlling Your Life

Anger ManagementEveryone experiences anger. Sometimes it comes as a fleeting exasperation that is accompanied by a single harsh glance at an object or person. Sometimes it comes in a full-blown fury that boils out through tongue, hands and even weapons.

The following tips from the American Psychological Association may help you manage your personal frustrations:

  1. Relaxation – Includes deep breathing, chanting, imagery and visualization, yoga-style exercises and other anger management techniques.
  2. Cognitive Restructuring – Logic defeats anger. Rather than speaking inaccurate words that merely reflect your inner frustration, learn to think and say words that clarify the problem and that address the senselessness of trying to resolve the issue through anger.
  3. Problem Solving – Focus on realistic solutions but learn to accept problems that have no solution.Communication – Rather than acting on inaccurate conclusions, learn how to slow down, listen and find understanding.
  4. Communication – Rather than acting on inaccurate conclusions, learn how to slow down, listen and find understanding.
  5. Humor – Laughter helps establish a balanced perspective which in turn defuses anger.
  6. Environment – Changing your environment can reduce that trapped feeling which so often leads to rage.
  7. Avoidance – Learn to avoid the sights, sounds, people and situations that prick your anger.

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